Finding balance in the third year. Or Not. Whatever.

I don’t like styling hair, I love it. If you’ve worked with me, had your hair done by me, or are just an unfortunate friend then you’ve probably heard me make the comment that it’s “my only talent.” But I’ve been lying to you. It’s not my only talent.

I’m going into my third year with Danica Rey Hair. I can’t believe that three years ago I told my husband I wanted to quit working in the salon and start my own business doing styling.  After threatening divorce and a quick check at the insane asylum he agreed that this might be a good option for our family. We had just moved back to the DFW area after a 3 year stint in Austin and while I loved working behind the chair in the salon I was a new mom. Pumping, working, pumping, trying to keep a household together, pumping, building a clientele, and oh did I mention I was pumping and nursing a baby? I didn’t want to give up “my only talent” but I was feeling exhausted and less than fulfilled and I knew there had to be another way. That’s where my idea of styling on a full time basis came into play.

So I did what any normal person starting out does. I sat down and went, "oh shit, what did I get myself into?" and then I began to hustle. I was determined to make my husband and family proud. I started by reaching out to local makeup artists, hairstylist, and wedding industry professionals and simply told them about myself and asked if I could help in any way.  In the meantime I started my website, got some business cards, and started to figure out how to build my brand.  Low and behold, little by little, I started getting work by contracting with makeup artists and taking clients on my own when I could.

Styling hair and working with people is not my only talent but it’s one I’m super proud of. I’m also an amazing short order cook (or so I’ve been told). I can easily transfer a 35lb sleeping toddler from the car to it's bed without so much a stir from said child. I know how to multi task with the best of them, answer an email, give the kid a bath, respond to a text, and fold some laundry-I got you. And I can curse, tell a stupid joke, and bust out in the most obscene dance moves at the drop of a hat. Yes, that's a talent. Don't judge me.

But in all seriousness I'm coming into this third year with a renewed spirit. Doing hair is not my only talent. It's something that I feel in my heart I was born to do. I love creating amazing hair styles, exceeding my clients expectations, and working with some of the most talented hair/makeup artists in the area. Yet this does not define me. I am a wife, mother, sister, daughter, friend, and in this third year I'm determined to find the perfect balance. Or close to it? Or kind of close? Or like just within reach?

Send help. 

image: Jennifer Yarbro Photography

image: Jennifer Yarbro Photography

Dirty hair, don't care? Actually yes, I do care.

At todays wedding I got to give a good lesson on a very common topic of conversation, should my hair be clean or dirty?  The simplest most straightforward answer is: clean, dry hair is best.

Clean hair? Clean hair you say? But everyone has always said that dirty hair is best? What you talkin bout Danica???

Yes friends, I’m here to set the record straight. CLEAN dry hair is best when having your hair styled for a wedding or event. But what about dry shampoo you say? I didn’t have time to wash my hair so can’t you just use dry shampoo? I mean isn’t that what dry shampoo is for? Technically no. Dry shampoo does not replace actually washing your hair with shampoo and water. Dry shampoo is designed to repel moisture away from the scalp with a multitude of ingredients such as, alcohol, clay, and various fragrances. It’s a great tool when used correctly but no matter how much dry shampoo I spray in your hair it’s not going to make it clean or soak up 3 days of oil from your unwashed hair. Trust me. I’ve tried.

This is not a one size fits all answer though. If you think you have the type of hair that works best dirty then just ask me! Thicker, coarser hair types do tend to work better when they are one or two days dirty. But if you or your bridesmaids have any doubt once so ever or had your hair done for the rehearsal dinner at a blow out salon where they doused your hair in product then go with this rule: clean, dry hair is best.

Now that you are on board with having clean hair let’s also talk about why it needs to be dry.  Have you ever tried to style your hair into an upstyle when it’s wet or even damp. No? Ok, go try it and then come back and let me know how it went. You are likely going to tell me it didn’t work out well. Your hair got frizzy or the part that was still damp wouldn’t hold a curl or get any volume. Exactly. Fully dry hair will hold a curl and style way better than wet or damp hair. Wedding days are busy and unless we make arrangements ahead of time there won’t be anyone available to dry your hair.

Oh guess what? I forgot to tell you something! I know you are reading this right now and thinking wait my hair is going to be too clean/dry and this lady is insane. I can make your hair dirty. Yup. Hello our friend dry shampoo! And I won’t even charge you extra to do it.  My bag comes with an arsenal of sprays and powders to “dirty” up your hair. But leave that up to me to do, I’m an expert.